Dear GZ Advisor,
I have to know if I'm a good friend. Every time I try to be a good friend, I feel like I'm not doing a very good job at it. Can you help me?
The fact that you're wondering if you're a good friend says a lot about your character. You are obviously a caring person (which counts for a lot in friendships), and you're committed to learning and growing.
These qualities are important because friendship skills aren't static. That is, we work on them continually because people and and relationships change. Here are some things to think about as you evaluate your friendship skills (and the way people treat you, which is important because friendship is a two-way street):
Do you encourage your friends to be open and honest with you, and do you respect what they have to say? Do you feel respected?
Do you have fun together? Do you enjoy many of the same activities?
Are you trustworthy? Do you keep confidences and promises? Can you count on each other?
Can you say no to each other, and be accepting of the choice?
Do you stick up for each other?
Do you encourage each other to grow in positive ways?
Genuine friendships take effort to develop and grow. It isn't always easy, but it's worth it. By being open and honest with yourself and others, you will be a good friend.
-- GZ Advisor
Also check out these entries from a past Girl Zone contest on the three most important rules for being a good friend:
The WINNING Entry:
I believe the three most important rules for being friends are as follows: always tell the truth no matter how much it hurts, you're there for that person when they need you the most no matter the situation, and you treat and care for that person as you would yourself.
Here are a few other entries:
THE THREE IMPORTANT RULES ARE 1. ALWAYS BE TRUE 2. NEVER TELL SECRETS THAT ARE SUPPOSED TO BE KEPT 3. STICK TOGETHER NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS
Not to Do: 1. Lie to your friend or be dishonest in any way. 2. Tease her or him. 3. Put them down or brag.
Three most important rules to friendship are: 1) Be honest and truthful. 2) Don't talk behind each other back. 3) Always be there for him/her.
THREE THINGS FRIENDS SHOULD DO: 1) ALWAYS BE THERE WHEN YOU REALLY NEED THEM 2) BE ABLE TO KEEP ALL YOUR SECRETS 3)ALWAYS STICK UP FOR YOU WHEN YOU ARE IN TROUBLE
Rules for being good friends: 1. Never tell anyone the secrets your friends confide in you to keep. 2. Don't talk behind your friend's back, a true friend can tell it to your face. 3. Be there for here if she rely needs you
I think that the three most important rules are: 1. Don't judge or assume stuff!!! 2. Forgive and Forget!!! 3. Think b4 you speak!!!
I think the 3 most important rules for being friends are: 1. DO NOT tell a secret your friend told you to everybody unless she/he tells you to. 2. DO NOT just be a friend to somebody because they are popular. 3. DO tell your friend the truth. Don't lie to her/him because the small lie could end up to be a big lie in the end.
The three rules to being best friends are 1- To have equal listening and talking time 2- Try your very most hardest to understand everything your friend experiences (good or bad) 3- Just be there when the other friend needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.( Be there to let them get whatever feelings they may have out)
Best Friend Rules- 1. Always keep the secrets your bestest tells you!!! 2. Don't talk about her behind her back.....EVER!!!! 3. Always give her time and space if she looks like she needs it.