Finding Your Way Out of the Rabbit Hole
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the cat.
“I don’t much care where-” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the cat.
“-So long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,”said the cat, “If you only walk long enough.”
From Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland(1865) by Lewis Carroll
Words written in 1865 still ring true and are easy for many to relate to. It’s interesting to think that so many years ago, people were still grappling with the same common issues about life, choices, fate and discovering our destiny. I just recently turned 30..old, right? :) I chose an Alice themed party, partially because I love the symbolism in the movie and the messages that emerge amidst the eccentric characters during her psychedelic trip in Wonderland. I highly recommend watching the new version of the movie, and I say this not only because I heart Johnny Depp. Sometimes, I think we all feel a little like Alice, the young girl who hasn’t found her way in either of her worlds. In her real life, her unique way of thinking is deemed as nonsense and she is dismissed as a quirky dreamer. In Wonderland, she feels as if she doesn’t quite fit in and her once friends don’t seem to recognize her.
“I wonder if I’ve been changed in the night? Let me think. Was I the same when I got up this morning? I almost think I can remember feeling a little different. But if I’m not the same, the next question is ‘Who in the world am I?’ Ah, that’s the great puzzle!”
The various transitions of life can make you feel as if you don’t recognize yourself one morning, as the quote expresses. You may wonder, “How did I get here“?
As in all fairy tales, a happy ending prevails, as Alice finds her voice and her place in the world; both of her worlds. So, how do we navigate our own way out of dark points in our lives? I’m still forging my personal path out of the rabbit hole, but I’ve learned a few things along the way.
- Live consciously. Stop pretending that everything is okay or that you’re happy with the way things are when in the pit of your stomach, you know you are not. Listen to what those whispers are trying to tell you. Maybe you’re in a major, at a job or in a relationship that is not fulfilling your needs. Do not be in denial for one more day. Accept that something has to change.
- Don’t be afraid to jump. Fear comes with taking risks because we don’t want to lose what once had. Release the fear and take the plunge toward what you could be yours.
- Dream big, start small. We may feel overwhelmed when we try a plan of attack to accomplish our goals. It is essential to begin with the sub-steps that must be taken first. Not always glamorous, they are necessary on the climb to your future. Focus, organize, and do it.
- Lean on all the characters in your life. Alice had the wise cat and caterpillar that did not tell her exactly what to do, but helped guide her. Turn to your friends and family for support and guidance to help you get over the through the rough patches.
I don’t believe Lewis Carroll would have graced us with a classic that has endured for generations to enjoy if he hadn’t a little bit of nonsense in him.
“ I relieve and release your hurt that you may be set free. ” ~L.C.