By Nicque Robinson
It. Sucks. I’m going to be completely honest. It really, really sucks. Justin and I have been together for almost 6 years and 4 of them have been long distance because I'm in the US Airforce Academy (USAFA). People ask me all the time how we do it. On the one hand, it’s kind of nice to have some space away from him. We’ve both been able to live our own lives and then come together a few times a year. But, on the other hand, it’s terrible being away from the person you love the most. We’ve had our share of fights. Most of them happened because we’re just so frustrated that we can’t see each other. We’ve had to work out phone-call schedules and then not stick to them at all. Whenever one has a free moment to talk, the other hardly does. So, you have to be creative if you want to communicate with your love-skype, text, send old fashioned letters, care packages...anything to let your significant other know you're thinking of them.
I’ve come to the conclusion that to make a long-distance relationship work, you both have to reeeeeeeeeally want it to work. There’s no magic formula. I told Justin that I was applying to USAFA and we both talked about what we wanted to do. From the moment we decided to do long-distance, we’ve been dedicated ever since then to making it work. We’ve reached points where we thought about giving up, but both of us would rather fight it out than ever have to live without each other. Trust is also a key ingredient to making your relationship last and so you two don't drive each other insane. There's going to be times when you're wondering what he's up to and you've gotta trust that you're in his heart & he's making good choices..even many miles away.
Justin and I have got a lot more tests ahead of us. We recently tied the knot! (There is hope for all you LDR's out there!) Married life is bound to be different than anything we’ve dealt with before. But, knowing we battled through 4 years being apart makes me confident that we’ll be able to handle it.