My BFF Is a Mean Girl


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My BFF Is a Mean Girl

Hey! One I am glad you read my email, please help me!!

So me and my best friend are really close. But anytime she is mad or in pain, she takes it out on me. This has been going on for months. And when I try to talk to her about it, she pushes me away. I don’t know what to do! We are always hanging out and she does this a lot. It is getting really annoying. She also makes fun of me a bit, but in a best friend way. Please help!!

-Stuck :(


Definitely sounds like you are stuck in a tough postion. Let me start by asking you a question. Would you ever take your angry feelings out on her? Do you make fun of her? I'm guessing your answers are no to both of these, otherwise you would not have written in so annoyed. You don't treat her that way because that's not how friends should treat one another. Eventually, you're going to get to your breaking point and walk away for good. Before that happens, try talking to her one more time. There are lots of things she can do other than take out her bad feelings on you! Suggest she talk to your school counselor, trusted teacher or her parents about her feelings. She can join a sport or activity, write in a journal, create art etc to express herself. And then this is the hard part-You have to tell her that if she continues to treat you like this, you will be the one who is out. Bottom line-Your best friend should not take out her bad feelings on you. No matter what. Stay strong. xoxo

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