My Friend Is Being Abused

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My Friend Is Being Abused

Dear GZ Adviser,

So, my best friend is obviously getting abused at home.  The only thing keeping her sane is a game where her friends (including me) chat on. Nowadays, we barely see any of her anymore because her parents keep taking her away from people she trusts. She got back almost an hour later, feeling irritated. Her parents threaten to take away her laptop and uninstall the game if she doesn't immediately obey their commands. She's having suicidal thoughts, but her parents won't let her commit suicide no matter what, and I won't let her either. There are other ways to cope! She's unable to send this email herself, because the email (which is linked to her mom's) she would send would allow her parents to see. As a result, she would probably get the game taken away for a few weeks (like normal). If my friend in fact called child services, her parents would act nice until they left. However, this is what would most likely happen. She'd like some advice on what to do, and please let me know if you have questions. She needs all the help she can get. Thanks!
 
Ariana
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Hi Ariana,
Thanks for being a good friend and reaching out for help! I'm sure your support is really helping her to cope. If she is being physically, sexually or emotionally abused, she needs to tell a trusted adult immediately. Or if she feels more comfortable with you telling an adult at school, that is fine, too. Teachers, coaches and school counselors are mandated reporters which means they have to call child protective services. I know you say that her parents will "just act nice until they leave", but these are professionals and they will listen to what your friend has to say. They may offer family counseling. I think your friend could greatly benefit from this because I'm very concerned about her suicidal thoughts. She has to know- that is never the answer! She is very young and she has no idea how things can change or what her life will be like in a year, 5 years, 10 years down the road....Don't miss out on the chance for happiness. Keep being a supportive friend and encourage her to reach out to an adult or call one of these hotlines for advice.
 
If you need help or have questions about child abuse, call the Childhelp NationalChild Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor. The hotline counselors are available 365 days a year to help kids, and adults who are worried about kids they suspect are being abused.
 
GZ Advisor