Obsessed With Being Thin

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Obsessed With Being Thin

Hi,

I am 14 years old and I am having weight issues. I have amazing parents that I love to the end of the world and back, but I struggle to talk to them about my weight issue because they are both so slim and fit. I am very sporty and I love eating healthy good food. I am also a vegetarian. I am 5'7 and I weigh about 126 pounds  I want to portray the sporty image of who I am but when I look in the mirror i don't see that. I have been trying to lose weight and have been counting calories and staring at myself in the mirror. I eat healthy, but more often than not, i overeat and then have thoughts of wanting to throw up. (I have never done it though)
 
I need some help for ways to stop looking at the mirror and counting calories and start liking my body!! I am tired of hating my body. Please keep this private. Thanks.
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Amber
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Thank you SO much for writing in Amber. It's not easy to share your deepest thoughts and secrets, so I'm really proud of you...and you should be, too. It takes a lot of strength to ask for help and admit you have a problem. I can see you feel your thoughts about your weight are getting out of control. And you're right. Throwing up can lead to an eating disorder which can lead to many health problems and can be fatal. Writing this email was the first step in learning to gain control of your thoughts once again. So, let's start there. Thoughts are pretty powerful, aren't they? One bad thought can ruin an entire day. Or can it? Actually, negative thinking can only ruin our mood if WE allow it to. 
 
I want you to go stand in front of that mirror and start to notice all your good qualities about yourself. What do you like about yourself? Maybe it's your hair, your freckles, your feet. And what else makes you pretty awesome? Maybe you're a good friend, have a kind heart and are the fastest soccer player on your team. Make a list and tape it on your mirror or write one in lipstick so you don't forget for a moment how beautiful and amazing you are. Beauty is never defined by a number on a scale. Trust me, there are some "beautiful super model types" who are the ugliest people. You know who are the most beautiful people? Ones who are confident, happy, treat others well and love life. Your worth and value and is based on so much more than fitting into a size 2.   
 
I also really think it's imperative for you to talk to an adult about how you're feeling. You have an amazing relationship with your parents (So rad by the way!) and I think you should open up to them. They're with you everyday and can provide you the support you need daily. That's what parents are there for-to support you through the good and not so good times. 
 
Or can you talk to a coach, school counselor or teacher you trust? There is no reason to suffer in silence. There are people out there who will listen. One of our very own Girl Zone writers, Julia wrote an article about her struggles with her body image. Read her story how she overcame an eating disorder here
 
Helpful sites and hotlines
teenlineonline.org
nationaleatingdisorders.org