Should I Keep Waiting For Him?


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Should I Keep Waiting For Him?

I am a 15 year old girl and need advice on I guess dating one of my friends. We've been talking for maybe 2-3 months but have talked throughout the year and we have told each other we like one another and what our intentions are to date. However, he's had issues with his ex and that's pushed me away for awhile to give him space and he closed off for awhile to clear his head with what's going on. We continued talking but I don't know what to do. My friends say we should date and I know how we both feel but I don't want to feel like a burden on him with everything's that's going on. I really don't think he'd feel I'm adding stress on him and instead would take some away, but I still debate on whether we should date. What should I do?



Hey Taylor,

You're vague about what exactly is going on with his ex girlfriend. I'm wondering why she is holding you guys back from dating? I know relationships and even past ones can be super complicated, I get it. But if she is truly an ex, she should not have this much influence on his current decisions. I mean, even if they stay friends, she really shouldn't be a reason why he can't date you. Seems like they may have some unresolved feelings? You want to be real with yourself if he is still into her. If that is not the case at all, then I think if you two really, really want to be together-You absolutely should! Unfortunately, timing is everything in relationships and if he's just not ready, then you'll have to decide if you're okay with continuing to wait for him or move on to someone who is ready to be with you. Sorry, girl, no easy answers with this situation.

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