3 Steps to Make Peace with Your Inner Mean Girl


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3 Steps to Make Peace with Your Inner Mean Girl

Written by Maggie Steele

1. Recognize it! 

The first and possibly most important thing to do is to recognize the voice inside your head that does the comparing. You know who I mean right? That annoying voice that ends up telling you you’re ugly, stupid, pudgy, or worse. Now you may think to yourself, “What? I don’t talk that way to myself,” but I urge you to listen. Some of you may be shocked when you hear some of the hateful things you are telling yourself on a regular basis. You will likely start to notice that some of the things you tell yourself are so mean that if a friend of yours told you the same, you would probably want nothing to do with them. Think about that! You are allowing your own inner voice to berate and humiliate you on a daily basis, but if a friend told you the same, you would never put up with it. Well, don’t put up with it now!

2. Write it down!

What are your strengths? What are you proud of? What is your favorite color at the moment? Or do you have many? What is something you really enjoy doing? What are you grateful for? What qualities do you possess that make you you? Have fun with the questions and come up with some of your own. By focusing on who you are and perhaps, who you would like to become, you will start to feel more comfortable in your skin and your self-esteem will increase significantly.

3. Listen up!

Make it a point to listen to your inner voice when you’re flipping through a magazine or watching a movie. What kind of things are you telling yourself? Are you comparing yourself to a celebrity? If so, recognize the comment and let it go. No need to berate yourself or judge yourself for being cruel. Just notice the comment and let it go. This exercise will have a huge impact on your self-esteem in the long run. Practice it enough and you will soon be doing it without even thinking, squashing that negative chatter before it has a chance to effect you. At the end of the day, we all have insecurities and there are moments when we feel bad about the way we look. It’s okay to feel bad from time to time, but feeling bad on a daily basis will cause you more pain and grief in the end. Why waste your energy feeling down when you have so many things to celebrate? Who you are reveals so much more than a reflection in a mirror, so focus on becoming the person you want to be and less on worrying about what others see. 


Copyright © 2015 by Maggie Steele

As a Life Coach and Mindfulness Coach for teens and young adults, Maggie specializes in supporting young adults cope with stress while accomplishing their goals.  Maggie is also the author of How I Got My S!*t Together: An Introspective Workbook to Help You Find Your Passion and Purpose in Life.  You can learn more about coaching by visiting her site: www.thelifecoachforteens.com!